Through the ethnographic study of how relatives live their daily life with a missing family member, and on forensic specialists’ daily practices of investigation and identification, in this study, we will examine the different ways in which a dialogue between these two seemingly opposite experiences and enactments of violence and disappearance can be fostered. It is an exercise of enabling a conversation between different voices, varied enunciation stances, and confrontations with disappearance, in our case: relatives and forensic specialists. Our purpose is twofold: 1. To investigate how such a dialogue may benefit current practices of searching and, eventually, identification and 2. To provide elements for richer accounts of violence and conflict that are made available for current and future memory practices and accounts of the violent past.